I strongly believe that love is an action word. You SHOW people that you love them. You show them with your words and matching consistent behaviors. My husband and I both feel that love is a daily recommitment; beyond the lovey-dovey honeymoon stage, it’s the consistent reaffirming behaviors that really show someone you care.
Showing someone you love them doesn’t mean you have to go broke in the process. In some parts of our culture, there seems to be this idea that you have to spend a lot of money to show someone you care, but the truth is there are plenty of FREE ways to show someone that you really love them.
1. Express your love in words
You can write a romantic poem or song for your loved one. You can even write a love letter! Write all about what it is you love and adore about your sweetheart. Their silly quirks and their best abilities. If you have an envelope and a stamp already on hand, mail it to your loved one! (If you live together you could bring your love letter in with the regular mail and let your honey find it!) This is such an old fashioned but classic way of showing your love. All you need is a pen and a piece of paper, then just let your words flow.
2. Make a handmade Valentine
3. Fix your loved one's favorite snack
4. Offer to clean their space
5. Watch a movie with them that otherwise may not be your taste
Do you and your sweetheart have different tastes when it comes to movies? Bite the bullet and offer to watch one of their favorite flicks with them. They will enjoy spending this time with you and it is quite the gesture of love to show interest in a movie or topic that you otherwise may not have chosen. And you never know, you might actually enjoy it. This is perfect for the partner whose love language is spending quality time together.
6. Play a song that makes you think of them
Play a song for your sweetheart that makes you think of them, maybe the song you were married to, and slow dance together. If you are apart, make a silly but sweet video of you dancing while imagining they are with you!
7. Be generous with compliments
Words are so powerful. Be generous with your compliments and see what a difference it makes. Make it a goal to give at least one compliment a day for a week and see how they are received. But try not to give compliments on his or her appearance. Instead, compliment your honey on their skills or talents, or the way they handled a problem or overcame a challenge. Your Valentine is sure to appreciate it.
8. Make them laugh
They say laughter is the best medicine and it is definitely good for the soul. Make your Valentine laugh by telling silly jokes, recall fun times you shared together, or see who can make the funniest face (Snapchat filters are amazing for this LOL!)
Have a good laugh together and get that oxytocin flowing!
9. Give them a back massageWho doesn’t love their back massaged? This is a great way to relax and unwind and it doesn’t cost a dime. Give your loved one a 15 minute back massage so they can rest, relax and unwind. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy, just a simple massage with lotion will do.
10. Kisses! Lots of hugs and kisses
Perfect for the partner whose love language is physical touch. Shower them with hugs and kisses every chance you get! This is such a simple but really sweet way to show your love and affection. You can even sign your little love notes with x’s and o’s.
11. Send them a text or e-mail
Without any prompting, send your sweetie a quick text or e-mail and say something thoughtful like:
- "I was thinking of that time we _______ and it made me smile. Can't wait to see you later"
- "I love the way you ______."
- "I was thinking of you and wanted to let you know how much I love you!"
- “Thought of you just now and it made me smile.”
- "I really appreciate you just the way you are."
Even emojis or gifs are great for sending random cute messages that let your honey know you are thinking of them!
12. Send them your favorite photo together
You can text or email it if you don't have a printed copy on hand. Add a note that explains why this is your favorite photo, what you were doing when it was taken, and why you will always remember it.
13. Hold their hand
Next time you are walking together, no matter if it's just up your driveway, around the grocery store, or to the post office, hold their hand! You could even give their hand three squeezes as if to say "I love you" in a secret code!
14. Schedule time together
The day to day hustle and bustle can go by so fast, it's important to make time for each other! Schedule time in your planner for a date, to cuddle on the couch, water your plants... anything. Just be sure to do it together. 💗
15. Ask them how their day was... and listen
Active listening can be a tough skill to practice. Ask your partner how their day was and then listen... without thinking of how you are going to respond and without letting your mind wander. Really focus on your partner's words and their feelings, their accomplishments that day or their struggles. Ask them a specific question about a project or deadline. While your listening to your loved one, make sure your phone is put away. Don't scroll social media while you are talking with them!
As you can see, you have a lot of options when it comes to showing your love in meaningful ways for less. Try these 15 free ways to show someone you love them your consideration and let them inspire you.
Don't forget to grab your FREE printable Valentine's Day cards and gift tags.
Want even more printables & activities for Valentine's Day?
This year, give the gift of precious time spent together! You don't have to blow the budget to show your Valentine how much you love them! This gorgeous and fun Valentine's Day Binder is filled with free activities and budget-friendly ideas that will make both you and your honey feel special.
Print and frame your holiday wall art to set the scene at home for cheap, use writing prompts for a romantic walk down memory lane, bake some new recipes together or mail out sweet cards to family and friends - this binder has everything covered! 😍
This printable Valentine's Day Binder is the answer to a holiday filled with love, laughter, and memories to last a lifetime.
What you'll receive in your Valentine's Day binder:
- Valentine's Bucket List
- Acrostic Poem Worksheets
- Valentine's Music Playlist
- The Newlyweds Challenge
- Inexpensive Date Night Ideas
- Daily Planner
- Photo Scavenger Hunt
- ABC's of Love
- Calendar (blank & filled with daily Valentine's Day activities)
- Valentine's Gift Tracker
- Habit Tracker
- Date Tracker
- Grocery List
- Recipe Page
- Gluten-Free Valentine's Day Recipes
- Love Letter Writing Prompts
- To-Do List
- Dotted Grid Page
- Journal Page
- Word Search
- Sudoku Puzzles (with solutions)
- You're a-MAZE-ing mazes
- Favorite Photos
- Gift Tags
- Valentine's Day Cards
- Valentine's Day Coupons (breakfast in bed, dinner & a movie, cuddle on the couch, etc.)
- and so much more!!